One of my best friends who is in relationship with a guy, decided to break the news to her parents. Before leaving from here (She stays as a PG here and her hometown is somewhere interior of the state) she was so scared to inform the news to her parents. She was skeptical whether they would agree.Though convincing the parents to accept the one you love is universal, its more so in India because as they say, In India, its not two human beings who marry, its a marriage of two families.So my friend being scared of facing her parents with the news was procrastinating it.
Her reason for worry? The guy is from a different caste and more importantly from a caste which is considered low by her community and by our society. In a world where we liberally sprinkle our language with democracy and freedom and talking about being open-minded and bold, such things shows the hidden black truth that the society has never been modern in a true sense, it has been quasi-modern or conveniently modern. We chose to be modern on things we found suited our desires like wearing an one piece or losing our mangalsutra or using western toilets and modular kitchens but when it comes to thoughts, we are still in ancient 19th century, a society catergorised in terms of caste and creed.
So this friend of mine, finally musters enough courage and goes home to reveal the news. What happens? What do you expect to happen. Of course the parents slap her, scold her followed by emotional blackmail of how they will loose all the respect they have in the society and more so call up the guy asking him to forget all about her. I so knew this will happen but still had a hope that probably her parents will realise the love she has for him and agree. But for Indian parents, honour among the society is more important than their children's happiness.
I haven't yet lost hope that her family will agree to it soon and she or her boyfriend are trudging along with that deep faith in humanity and themselves . I keep motivating them that after a hurricane, comes the rainbow. Meanwhile, I continue to dream of a future wherein an Indian mind learns to be broad minded in true sense and let people have their "happily ever after".
Her reason for worry? The guy is from a different caste and more importantly from a caste which is considered low by her community and by our society. In a world where we liberally sprinkle our language with democracy and freedom and talking about being open-minded and bold, such things shows the hidden black truth that the society has never been modern in a true sense, it has been quasi-modern or conveniently modern. We chose to be modern on things we found suited our desires like wearing an one piece or losing our mangalsutra or using western toilets and modular kitchens but when it comes to thoughts, we are still in ancient 19th century, a society catergorised in terms of caste and creed.
So this friend of mine, finally musters enough courage and goes home to reveal the news. What happens? What do you expect to happen. Of course the parents slap her, scold her followed by emotional blackmail of how they will loose all the respect they have in the society and more so call up the guy asking him to forget all about her. I so knew this will happen but still had a hope that probably her parents will realise the love she has for him and agree. But for Indian parents, honour among the society is more important than their children's happiness.
I haven't yet lost hope that her family will agree to it soon and she or her boyfriend are trudging along with that deep faith in humanity and themselves . I keep motivating them that after a hurricane, comes the rainbow. Meanwhile, I continue to dream of a future wherein an Indian mind learns to be broad minded in true sense and let people have their "happily ever after".
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